12th September 2012

love hand

This is a really interesting area to explore because it touches all of the ideas and experiences that we have already discussed. It is therefore an excellent jumping off point for bringing together all these ideas and taking us into the closing exercise.

Our experience and understanding of love defines our relationship with ourselves, with others and with life itself. It is primarily rooted in our experiences of relationships with the people closest to us: parents, family, friends, lovers and partners. All of these, particularly the earliest experiences, create our mental and emotional landscape of love. This in turn shapes our expectation and understanding of what we need to do to receive love, how to be safe with the people we love, what the risks of giving and receiving love are, and what we allow ourselves to experience of love in our lives. In our adult lives our relationships with partners tend to mirror what we learnt as children about love, and one aspect of these adult relationships is that they are a classroom in which we have the opportunity to learn more about ourselves.  As we become more aware of who we are and how we behave, we then have the choice to continue to live in that way or to change. Sometimes these lessons last a lifetime, sometimes they are quicker and more dramatic.

Why is this interesting? Because our minds create a mental framework for how we relate to the people we love and within this framework lie all our prejudices, beliefs and expectations. For example, if a parent was overly critical of a child then that can create an expectation that this is how a partner in an adult relationship should treat us. Or if a parent is ill a lot and the child has to cope with this, often by helping out or nurturing the adult, then this may extend into that child’s adult relationships. These are not hard and fast rules of cause and effect, rather they are examples of how our minds build an understanding and expectation of love.

What is the impact of this? Well, our aura and energy system is constantly drawing energy into our physical body. The nature of that energy changes according to where our consciousness is focused. When we are thinking, it takes on more of a mental hue – seen by clairvoyants as a yellow mist surrounding the body – when we are active it becomes more physical and dynamic – seen as red – and so on. Well, what about love? Well, when we are relating to ourselves or others the mind has a greater or lesser impact depending on how open we are emotionally. The more vulnerable and fearful we are – these are ideas held in the mind based on interpretations of past events – the greater the impact of the mind on our relating to others through the heart. And vice versa. When we love unconditionally and from an open heart, all fear and reservation is set aside and the quality and quantity of energy that we draw on is considerably increased. From my perspective, this is perhaps the simplest and most important impact that our mind has on our lives.



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